“The Lord hath given me the tongue of the learned, that I should know how to speak a word in season.” ~ Isaiah 50:4
Indeed, interpersonal problems will not be resolved without confrontation. However, there is a right time and a right way to say everything.
I am currently on the 22nd day of Deborah Smith Pegues’ 30 Days To Taming Your Tongue. I must admit that each day becomes harder and harder as I am being taught about the sins that originate from the same part of my body that praises and worships the Lord. It is great to know that we are already empowered to use our tongues wisely.
Here are my Top 5:
1. The Lying Tongue – I am aware that deceitfulness and half-truths are forms of lying. I was surprised to know that there is another form called exaggerating. It is done by stretching the truth in order to make something sound more believable. Exaggerating is telling beyond the facts and face value of the story. It is okay to tell stories with enthusiasm but avoid the exaggerations and resist the urge to become the center of attention.
“My mouth speaks what is true, for my lips detest wickedness. All the words from my mouth are just; none of them is crooked or perverse.” ~ Proverbs 8:7-8
2. The Hasty Tongue – There are two types of being hasty: responding in haste and committing in haste. It basically talks about being slow in speaking and being quick in listening (James 1:19). Stop, think and pray before we speak. Know that words, once spoken, can never be recovered. It is vital to evaluate our words before we release them.
“Do not be rash with your mouth, and let not your heart utter anything hastily before God.” ~ Ecclesiastes 5:2
3. The Argumentative Tongue – Being argumentative is an exercise of tongue in futility, which certainly not the method to influence people or win friends. One should learn to disagree without being disagreeable. Avoid becoming contentious by respecting everyone’s values and views.
“People’s minds are changed through observations and not through argument.” ~ Will Rogers
4. The Boasting Tongue – Everything comes from the Lord; when someone boasts, it implies that his good fortune is a result of his own knowledge and efforts. Deborah emphasizes that when pride screams in the front row, we must learn to consciously take the backseat. Remember that praise is like perfume. If you consume it, it will kill you.
“Let another praise you, and not your own mouth; someone else, and not your own lips.” ~ Proverbs 27:2
5. The Self-Depreciating Tongue – This is often disguised as being humble, but in reality, it is a form of rejecting the Word of God. Abandon the negative labels and redefine yourself. Self-depreciation displeases God. Reject the spirit of inadequacy and believe that we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us (Philippians 4:13).
“Notice how Satan seeks to take us from one extreme to the other. He tries to make us either boastful or bashful. He tries to make us think that we are ‘da bomb’ or ‘done bombed’.” ~ Deborah Smith Pegues
I still have eight days to finish the book but I guess I will be reading it over and over again in order to remind me on how to use this unruly member of my body intelligently. Our body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, thus, we should take care of it in any and every way.